The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World

Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Nobel Peace Prize winner, Chair of The Elders, and Chair of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission, along with his daughter, the Reverend Mpho Tutu, offer a manual on the art of forgiveness—helping us to realize that we are all capable of healing and transformation.

Tutu's role as the Chair of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought was going to happen to South Africa after apartheid, almost universally it was predicted that the country would be devastated by a comprehensive bloodbath. Yet, instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation.

Each of us has a deep need to forgive and to be forgiven. After much reflection on the process of forgiveness, Tutu has seen that there are four important steps to healing: Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm; Telling one's story and witnessing the anguish; Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness; and renewing or releasing the relationship. Forgiveness is hard work. Sometimes it even feels like an impossible task. But it is only through walking this practical, fourfold path to healing from trauma that Tutu says we can free ourselves of the endless and unyielding cycle of pain and retribution. The Book of Forgiving is both a touchstone and a tool, offering Tutu's wise advice and showing the way to experience forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiving is the only means we have to heal ourselves and our aching world.

In The Book of Forgiving , you will learn the universal, four-step process for healing pain and finding peace:

How to Forgive: Learn the four essential steps for healing—Telling the Story, Naming the Hurt, Granting Forgiveness, and Renewing or Releasing the Relationship. Letting Go of Anger: Discover why forgiveness is the best form of self-interest, freeing you from the chains of bitterness and the cycle of revenge. Spiritual Growth: Draw on Archbishop Tutu’s experiences with South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission to find a path toward healing for yourself, your community, and the world. Healing and Self-Forgiveness: Realize that there is nothing that cannot be forgiven and no one undeserving of forgiveness—including yourself.